Disappointment is an inevitable part of life. As parents, we play a crucial role in helping our kids navigate these more challenging emotional waters. Here are some strategies to help your children process disappointment in a healthy way.
Validate their feelings
When your child is disappointed, acknowledge their emotions. It’s tempting to say things like “It’s not a big deal,” but this, in fact, can make children feel their emotions aren’t important. Saying something like, “I can see you’re really upset about this,” shows them that their feelings are valid and understood.
Encourage expression
Allow your child to express their disappointment. Whether through words, drawing, or even physical activity, giving them an outlet can help them process the emotion. Sometimes, a hug and reassurance that everything will be okay is all a child needs to start feeling better.
Look for the lesson
Help your child find the silver lining or learning opportunity in the situation. This builds resilience and a growth mindset. If the disappointment stems from a situation that can be changed, guide your child in brainstorming solutions. This empowers them to take action rather than feeling helpless.
Maintain perspective
Lastly, help them see the disappointment in a new light. Remind your child of past disappointments they’ve overcome. This reinforces their ability to bounce back.