Most parents feel bad about yelling at their kids. But in tense situations, they find themselves doing that without even realizing it. Luckily, there are several things you can do that will help you stop yourself from yelling even when you feel you should.
Recognize the Symptoms
Recognizing the symptoms that will end up leading to you yelling can be a great motivator to de-escalate the situation. For example, breathing heavily, sweating, or having your heart beat faster indicates that you are getting upset. Also, you should be aware of some common triggers that end up causing you to yell at your kid.
Make a “Calm Down” Strategy
People yell when they are upset. This is why you should come up with a strategy that will help you calm down. It can be anything from going outside and getting some fresh air to going to the bedroom and taking deep breaths while counting to 10. Try some different things, see what works best, and employ it next time you feel like yelling.
Warn Your Kid
If you feel like there is a situation that could lead to you turning to yelling, warn your kid. Tell them that you are on the edge and that they shouldn’t push you. This way, you will also warn yourself while letting them know it isn’t something you want to do.