Jealousy between your kids is totally normal, but handling it with care can help keep the peace at home. Here’s how to navigate the green-eyed monster with composure and empathy.
Acknowledge Feelings
Don’t brush off their feelings. Let each child know that it’s okay to feel jealous sometimes. Validating their emotions is the first step in helping them process them (and hopefully, move beyond them).
Celebrate Individuality
Remind your kids of their unique qualities and strengths. Highlight what makes each of them special to avoid constant comparison and competition. They truly are one of a kind.
Individual Treatment
Explain to them that fair doesn’t have to mean equal. Focus on meeting each child’s needs rather than giving them the same things. Once this concept is clear to them, they might better understand your decisions.
Encourage Teamwork
Encourage teamwork over competition. Plan activities where they need to work together towards a common goal, promoting cooperation and bonding.
One-on-One Time
Life is hectic, especially with more than one kid; but do your best to spend some individual quality time with each. It will make them feel valued and loved, reducing the need for them to fight for your attention.
Open Communication
Finally, normalize. Jealousy is just a natural human emotion, and can talk about it openly and brainstorm solutions together. Encourage your kids to express their feelings constructively and listen with kindness.