When children have strong bonds with their parents/guardians, they’re more likely to perform better in school, manage stress better, form positive relationships and have a higher self-esteem.
Show Dependability
Provide them with comfort and be their “safe place” whenever needed. Be available physically as much as you possibly can. Your child needs to see you as a safe place. Provide comfort whenever he or she is sick, hurt, or upset. Be physically available as often as possible. When your child feels safe, they can explore the world on their own, knowing they can return to you for security and comfort when they need it. Encourage your child to try new things by showing you believe they can do it on their own, but be nearby in case they need to return to you for comfort.
Show Attentiveness
Have 1-on-1 interaction with activities you both can enjoy together like talking or playing games. Don’t force specific interactions; instead, let your child take the lead on what they need. Interact with your child one-on-one.
Show Predictability
Kids need routines to help them feel secure. Bedtimes, mealtimes and other regular activated help them establish security and self-discipline. That way, they always know what to expect.
Show Understanding During Separation
Spending time away from you will not affect attachment. In fact, it can help them create bonds with other people. When leaving them with other caregivers, having a “goodbye routine” will help your child feel more secure. Be confident and show them that the situation is not upsetting because they will likely mimic your behavior. Some kids benefit from a security item (blanket, toy, etc..) to keep while you’re away. Establishing strong attachment with your child is very beneficial to them and help them feel safer and more confident as they learn and grow.